So as many of you know we are relocating from Roatan, Honduras back to SoCal in T minus 8 days. We are selling & giving away everything (for the second time in 2 years – we sold/gave away everything when we moved here originally.) We are going to start all over again. It sounds crazy, but that’s what God has called us to and since we are in it for the long haul (read: we are committed to following where He leads us) so we are doing what He asks.
As a wife/mom/planner/list-maker/organizer I feel like in order to keep my sanity I need to have some idea of what we will have to reacquire once we settle into a new home in California. Enter: the New Home Spreadsheet. For some people this might seem over whelming, but for me I have to know the totality of what I am going to be dealing with in order for it NOT to feel overwhelming. Maybe it’s a “know your enemy” kind of thing… not that this move is my enemy, but I do need to understand what I am facing.
So here’s what I did: I went to all the wedding registry sites and looked at what they are telling people is needed to establish a home. Insert screeching tire noise here. What the what? I do not need martini shakers or high ball glasses to establish a home. I do need laundry baskets and a broom though. I have kept a home for 10 years. Trust me when I say: you do not NEED a fondue set (yeah, sites are still telling people to register for those… but I will admit, they are super fun) You know what people need but no one tells you to register for? Lamps! (it’s makes fondue better when you can see what you’re eating.)
I was seeing a BIG BIG disconnect between wedding registry lists and real life. So, I sat down with the BFF and wrote down every.single.thing. I will need in order to establish a home again. From mattresses to cleaning supplies to lamps. We tried to think of everything. I broke my list down by room and walked around her house thinking – “Do I need this?” and “What about this?” and “I cannot believe I almost forgot this!”
Then, when I had to take that little detour to California (read about that here) I was able to go through our storage (read: my in-laws garage) and see what on the list we already had. So then I was able to categorize my list as Have / Need / Want. Cuz let’s be honest, I do not need-need a rug in my living room, but I totally want one.
So here’s that list:
(Ok, this is actually the simplified version because I took and lumped like items.
For example: Windex, Lysol wipes, & Barkeeper’s Friend became: “cleaning supplies” in the Laundry Room Need category.)
Now I have a super clear visual of what I need to purchase/beg/borrow/ask Santa for. I know that some things will have to wait though. I cannot get all the things I need in one shopping trip at Ikea… plus, I do not want to. That is not how I decorate my casas. I am more of a bargain hunter than that. I love to hit up yard sales, thrift store, Marshall’s, Home Goods, etc and collect as I go along. So I had to make a priority spreadsheet for my purchases:
This way I will have an idea of what is priority so I can make sure my budget doesn’t get stretched too far.
Obviously mattresses trump art for the Dining Room, but in my life cleaning supplies trump all. Before we move into a rental I will have to go in and clean that place for a whole day before we move in. So therefore cleaning supplies are at the top of the list. Plus, I can buy those, get them out of the way, and then start making larger purchases – again with the mattresses.
In my world, this is what I think it will take to establish a new home in the US after living abroad for two years.
Am I missing things? Have you experienced “starting over”? What did you find helpful?